Thursday, January 9, 2014

My first OB appointment

I had my first OB appointment this morning!

Kevin and I adore this OB. He is such a caring person and an excellent doctor. We met him on a very panicked day back in March as we sought a second opinion when the RE nurse told me I had an ectopic. That turned out to not be true, but still ended in a devastating loss. He compassionately held our hands as we walked down the horrible path until we knew that a D&C was inevitable. Our relationship with him at that time was only about three weeks long. Because of this, I wondered if he would even remember us at our appointment today.

No question. He did. :)

Kevin and I were both greeted with giant hugs, smiles, and a emphatic "welcome back!" For a doctor who must see hundreds of patients a year, it felt really nice for him to remember not only us, but to also remember what we had been through last time we were there almost a year earlier.

He was so excited to hear about where we were today. And he was even more excited to hear about the unique circumstances! He asked us how we got our embryos, and said that he frequently has patients who went through IVF and don't know what to do with their remaining embryos. I used the opportunity to tell him of the options available in the hopes he might share that information in the future. I got teary-eyed explaining to him what a life-changing (and life-giving) gift this has been for us. Maybe some of his other patients might consider this path because of our story. I sure hope so.

First things first - the much anticipated ultrasound. We were hoping to finally see what looked like a baby shape in there. We were hoping for some stumpy appendages or maybe the shape of a gummy bear. We were so amazed to see that not only did this baby look like an actual baby, but he/she decided to dance around for us! It truly took our breath away. We could have watched baby dance all day! I couldn't believe when the nurse said she had recorded it on DVD for us to take home. I'm excited to be able to share this with you all.  I cropped it down to short 30 second clip so you can see this snowflake baby dancing around in there. Snowflake: Party of one!


Baby measured in at 10w. The doctor decided my due date would be changed from August 6 to officially be August 7. Works for me!

After the ultrasound, we talked about basic pregnancy stuff, medications, but everything he said was beyond reassuring. He said the baby was "super good looking" and appeared very healthy. He said he felt confident that this pregnancy would be filled with joy and happy tears, as opposed to last time we were there.

We scheduled the next appointment for two weeks from today which would be the NT scan and MaterniT21 bloodwork. No matter the outcome, we'd never terminate. EVER. But if something came back positive, we'd just want to know what to expect. And the icing on the cake is that the blood test result will also contain the gender! Kevin and I think it's a girl. But of course we'd be happy with either one. Oh my gosh we are so excited!

I planned the day off of work for some "me" time. So after the appointment, I decided to go to Old Navy to look at maternity clothes. Unfortunately I couldn't find the maternity section in the store so I asked a lady at checkout. She said "We don't have a maternity section, but I have a few internet returns that are maternity if you want to take a look at these." And guess what? They were coincidentally just in my size and majorly discounted! SCORE! I tried them on and ended up getting two adorable shirts and a really cute sleeveless maxi dress. While in the dressing room wearing the dress, I poked my belly out as far as I could get it to go and dreamed about a big baby bump this summer!

When I got to checkout, the same woman asked me how far along I was since obviously I had just asked about maternity clothes. I told her "10 weeks" and she exclaimed "That's so great! Congratulations!"

I quickly debated whether or not to try out my elevator speech on her for the first time. I decided to go for it.

"This baby is a miracle because he or she is actually adopted. We adopted this baby as an embryo!"

There I said it. There was then opening line I had practiced in my head.

She looked amazed and started asking some really great questions. I explained in a nutshell how it worked, how we transferred an embryo from two different donor families and we don't know which one it was. She was fascinated, and then opened up to tell me that she and her husband had just adopted from the Ukraine after battling secondary infertility! I thought it was such a neat conversation to have at the checkout of a clothing store. I left with not only a bag of deeply discounted maternity clothes that were coincidentally just in my size, but with a warmed heart on an already perfect day talking to another adoptive mama.

I know I've said this before but I'll say it again: I am so incredibly grateful for where I am today.


37 comments:

  1. Oh this warms my heart so much! I'm so happy for you Liz! And what a beautiful snowflake you have there!!!!!!

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  2. I seriously love everything about this post! And I'm so happy for you guys :) I remember my NT scan with Caleb and I cried when I saw him on the screen because he looked like a baby with arms and legs (as compared to a blob at 6 1/2 weeks). It's so awesome that you've gotten to see your baby grow and change so much already!

    And I think the only Old Navy with a maternity section is down south by Bee Caves, but I'm glad you scored some awesome deals! It was meant to be :)

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    1. Thank you so much! Yeah, we can't wait for the next appointment!!! :) Thanks for the ON tip!

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  3. Aw baby's got moves! Glad your OB remembered what you've been through and that you have a good start to your relationship with him.

    The ON story had me in tears! I'm happy your first go at your elevator speech went well.

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    1. LOL! Dance, baby, dance!! Thanks for the kind words, as always! :)

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  4. Awesome first OB appt! Love your last sentence....makes me tear up! I can't wait to be in that position.

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    1. :) I hope it comes for you soon too! I am incredibly grateful! :)

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  5. So glad that you had a great apt and love your doc!!

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  6. What dr are you seeing? I would love to try someone new!

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    1. I'd be happy to let you know via email. Shoot me a quick message at wishingonasnowflake@gmail.com

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  7. That video is so amazing! What a great day!

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  8. That's so great :-) I love the dancing baby!!

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  9. Sounds like a pretty awesome day. I'm so happy for you! :)

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  10. We saw our babies dance for the first time last week.. I feel even deeper in love as I'm sure you did. The video is great! I will be 12 weeks on Sunday so we aren't that far apart frome each other. I am so happy for you guys and your beautiful miracle. Old Navy and Gap always have great sales online so just keep your eyes out for the discounts!

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    1. Oh I'm so excited for you!! This is great! Congrats on the awesome visit for you too!! :) I'll keep my eyes out for the discounts! i think i'll have to place an order soon.

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  11. So glad that you had a great appointment but that you love your OB as well. And awesome about the maternity clothes!!!

    I have found so many opportunities to share EA with people and love to be able to do so. It amazes me how many people have dealt with IF in one way or another.

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    1. It's crazy how people come out of the woodwork! :) Thanks for the comment!

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  12. Beautiful post! So happy your pregnancy is progressing so great and you got to see the baby dance. And glad you are sharing your story with others. You are such an inspiration!

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    1. Aw, Mel, you are so sweet! Thanks so much!

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  13. Love love love the video. I didn't think a baby could look so much like a baby at 10 weeks! And he/she's got some moves. So happy that things are turning out so well for you!

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    1. I had no idea either! Really blew my mind! Thanks so much. :) Fingers crossed for your upcoming transfer!!!

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  14. Cue me bawling my eyes out! Seriously I don't know if I have ever seen anything so beautiful as that lil one dancing around for you!!! Love this! Thank you for sharing!!

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    1. Aww, you are so sweet!! I have probably watched this video at least 50 times! No exaggeration! LOL

      It never gets old for me. Melts my heart every time. :)

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  15. My mom was due with me on August 7th, but I ended up coming July 31st. You may have a July baby! Congrats!! That is a good looking kiddo you've got in there. It reminds me of my 10 week ultrasound with my son, who is now a healthy happy 2.5 year old!

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    1. Maybe July, maybe August! Who knows? I soooo can't wait for our Summer snowflake!! :)

      Congrats on your son! :)

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  16. I stumbled upon your blog and what an amazing story you have! I am so happy for you and your little snowflake!!!!! i will be thinking of you for the rest of your pregnancy! love from New Zealand!

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    1. You are so sweet to come and comment! Thank you so much!!! :)

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