In the past few weeks, Kevin and I have done a lot of thinking about and talking about next steps. The fact is that even though we are struggling just to have our first child right now, we would eventually like more than one someday. So that being said, it makes sense for us to start looking for more embryos now and have them ready for our upcoming FET as well as some frozen for future siblings. Of course we would love for our final remaining embryo to make it. But given how much money, time, and resources go into a transfer, we would be devastated if that final snowflake didn't survive thaw and that was our only shot. And it sounds like there's a good chance of that scenario unfolding based on what the embryologist said about it's chances. If it did survive thaw, we would love to have another good embryo to transfer with it. So that being said, it makes sense to start looking now. I talked to our previous donor Vicky and she is incredibly supportive and understands our desire to be parents and is cheering us on. I pray with everything I have that we find more and find them fairly quickly since waiting to find embryos last year was some of the most depressing times of my life. Hope changes to hopelessness quickly when you have no leads on the horizon.
Today's post is a plea to anyone who might be considering donating their remaining embryos to a couple, or to anyone who knows someone who is considering donating. We wish to be parents so much and have so much love to give. And having adopted embryos before, we are very familiar with how the process works and can do most of the leg work to make it happen. We will arrange for costs associated with shipping and drawing up the legal agreement. We just need a willing donor with embryos who wishes to give them a chance at life and wishes to give another loving couple the opportunity to be parents. And trust me, this process is much easier than it sounds.
If you are new to my blog, please know that we loved our adopted embryos so much. We put all of our heart and soul into them and their potential futures and it devastated us beyond comprehension us to lose two at thaw. Then to miscarry... words cannot express the love we had for our baby and the sorrow we feel now that she is lost. Know that we would love any future embryos just the same. We are dedicated to giving any received embryos their deserved chance at life. I hope anyone reading my blog can see the dedication and love we had, and would have for any embryos we received. And while we felt it was a blessing knowing our donor in our open adoption relationship, we are open to any type of situation that a potential embryo donor might be interested in (open, semi-open, or closed.)
If you have embryos to donate or know someone who does, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will answer any and all questions you have. We have so much to give and we are an open book!